Imagine this scenario:
Your five year old homeschooled gifted kid is great at math and is doing third grade work. Then for some reason your kid goes to some kind of math class and for some reason they only give him second grade math. Of course the staff there think it is TOTALLY AWESOME that your five year old is doing 2nd grade work, they might not even realize that he could do more.
Now imagine that every time your kid gets a 2nd grade problem correct they the staff makes a big deal out of it, with applause and treats. Now imagine that the staff never really gets over their amazement because it is always new teachers.
Now it is not much to wonder at that when the mom of this gifted five year old tries to teach her kid the third grade work the kid rankles at and resents any treaties to work harder or focus more or even reminders of process.
Now imagine this is Z and instead of it being about math it is about pretty much everything.
And it is not like I don't want the people she is acting with not to be nice to her. I definitely want them to be nice. They have better be nice.
But they are making a big fuss when she reaches the, rather low, bar they have set.
Like many parents I am imparting our families values to Z all throughout the day. Since I am able to homeschool I more opportunities than many to do this. But when Z is going on auditions and especially when she is working all day on a job she is getting a different set of values expressed to her and they are being expressed by a large group of people and the message is a very attractive one.
*sigh*
I am not sure how I can communicate to Z the right away to internalize all this.
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Have you talked to Z about being gifted? You don't have to use the g word, you can just talk about being different and who her peers are. This worked with K.
She does know the word. I wanted to tell her because I think knowing why you are different and that there is a reason for it and it is okay is important.
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