Friday, July 28, 2006

grrrr

So the mean lady leader of my homeschooling group said, after hearing Z was doing acting, "I think they should just breed child actors, like dogs, as fodder for the entertainment industry."

omg! Why is this woman so rude to me?

And she said this while two of her kids were rehearsing Shakespeare with Z, so apparently it is okay for kids to act, just not to get paid for it.

I am going to have to spend most of Sunday with her while the kids are performing but I am bringing Pere with me as a buffer. I am counting on her not being so boisterously rude to me in front of him.
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4 comments:

Butterfly 8)(8 Bungalow said...

I am sorry to hear this how can she be jealous of a little girl?

10:48 PM
Cher Mere said...

Hi Mamita

I don't know if she is jealous of Z or not. She was pretty mean to me from the beginning (about a year ago now.)

At first I thought it was me because she is the kind of "leader" that wants everyone to look up to her and look to her for advice. And when I came in I had already been homeschooling for 3 years and have read almost every book about it and was on tons of website, etc. So not only did I not really need her to explain how to homeschool to me I offered my advice to other people.

It could have something to do with Z too. Her oldest daughter is 14 I think and just finished high school. She is very intelligent and motivated. Her youngest daughter is 4 and hardly verbal, still in a diaper and has behavior problems. One of my friends thinks that what I am doing with Z reminds her of her oldest daughter but also draws a comparison to her youngest daughter and pushes some of the buttons that make her very threatened.

Sorry to be so long. The thing is that I will probably have her in my life for awhile because I want Z to do Shakespeare again in the fall and this woman's kids will be there too.

7:21 AM
Anonymous said...

I can only chalk it up to some people being openly hostile. I would guess she'd be quite pleased to get a rise out of you. Not much else to do besides, grrr, unfortunately.

I think many people who homeschool tend to be pretty opinionated, so it does seem sometimes like you run into more than your share of rudeness, not to mention the rudeness of nonhomeschoolers who feel somehow threatened by your decision to homeschool.

I do know that sometimes having a pg kid makes me want to drop out of society entirely! If we're not offending someone by being "too smart" then we're offending someone by not "fulfilling her potential." These kids have to be daily high acheivers at everything they try while still actively demonstrating a level of humility on a level with Jesus and Socrates.

But we soldier on, eh? :)

12:28 PM
Anonymous said...

You know, Shaun, I have been thinking these past couple of days about whether or not it is a shame if a really G child does not fulfill their intellectual potential. I met two women surgeons who are among the best in the world at what they do, and I thought my dd could be that if she wanted, and thus be involved with saving lives - but I know she hates the thought of being a doctor, so of course that option is out. I must admit, though, I would hope she would choose a life path that enabled her to use her various gifts to help the world in some way. And yet, I want her to be happy too. Its a fine line and I think which way a person leans is really dependent on their personal ethics and even their spiritual beliefs.

I myself always believed I should use my own intelligence for all it was worth - not so much in the way of fulfilling its potential (although yes that did come into it too - and I was raised to believe I should not "waste my brain"), but also as a resource I could use to better the world just a little. That is why I chose the jobs I did. But I feel the same way about my innate resource of compassion, so its not just an IQ thing.

I agree though that if you tell a G child they should not "waste their brain" then what does that say about the value of other people who are not so intelligent?

Sorry I'm not being very clear, I'm writing this extremely hurriedly!

As for that horrible woman, Cher Mere, look at it this way - she is obviously unhappy in herself and her life, that she can spread such misery. I pity her. I also believe she is jealous of you and/or your daughter. I'm so sorry you have to put up with her. And I agree with Shaun, many homeschoolers are incredibly judgemental and outspoken with their narrow opinions. Its hard to cope with I know. But just think, what a sad and unfulfilled lady she must be inside.

2:25 PM

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